Do you sometimes feel insecure when you’re on social media and someone you know is doing better than you? Do you go under pressure when most of your social group are on a level that you’re not on? Do you compare their achievements to yours?
Take a marathon as an example. A lot of people sign up for marathons but most of them could not care less who wins the marathon. Most of the people I speak with are signing up just for the heck of it or they want to check if they can finish it a bit sooner than the last marathon they ran for. They are going against the other marathoners but they are going against their previous time.
A comparison can be about job, income, grades, traveling and more. Nowadays, social media is being used by people to look at someone else’s life. The idea of it being connected to others are being used in a different way.
The way people portray themselves can make someone see them having a blast or grand time. Social media has also become a place where people can flaunt what they have.
You know it’s not healthy to compare yourself to others yet you cannot stop it, especially when right there in your face.
It will never get better. There would always be someone that is better than you, richer than you, more athletic than you, more intelligent and more. So never compare yourself to others. Compare yourself only to yourself.
How is that? Here are some tips to help you along the way:
Always Look Behind and Appreciate How Far You’ve Become
Unless something entirely horrible had happened to you recently and it had you down, you’re always better than before. You don’t have to make big steps to ensure this happens. As long as you’re in a steady pace making progress little by little, contemplate at what you’ve accomplished for the day. Do this every day. It would be better if you write it as well so you have some sort of visual reference of how far you’ve become.
After a month, look at what you’ve done 1 month before and look at what you’ve done now. Imagine you’re working on a project, day in and day out, you have been putting in work consistently. Every single day, no matter how big or small, you make sure that you do something that will put the project forward and a step closer to completion than the day before. Before you know it, you will have the project completed.
Be always better than yesterday. Compare your present self to your yesterday self. Do things every day that will result in a better version of you.
Learn From The Past
Once you’re done looking behind and if things didn’t turn out how you planned it to be, learn from it. Accept the fact that somehow somewhere you failed and make sure you note that down and learn from it.
Do not concentrate on what you don’t have. Opposite of there’s always someone better, there’s also less fortunate. Regardless of your situation, there’s always someone who has it worse. Stick to this mentality and life would seem better.
Instead of dwelling on what unfortunate circumstance that you’re facing, be grateful that something worse did not happen. Always imagine someone who doesn’t have the privilege you have and start being grateful for having a lot.
There was one time that I’m being pressured left and right at my job. I was facing problems from operations to sales and marketing and other departments. As I contemplate, I just started thinking “I can do this. I can do this.” I kept saying subtly those words in my office and then afterward, I pushed myself addressing all issues one after another.
Now saying those words did not magically fixed my problems at work but it helped that I was positive that I can do it. I cannot count on anyone else so I helped myself. Don’t dwell on the negative. Motivation within is the best tool you could use to help yourself.
Stop Being Envious of Other People
You’ll see people on social media how successful they’ve become. What you don’t see there is what they did to get there. What did it take for them to be where they are now? You won’t be able to see the whole picture unless they share it with you or you’ve witnessed it firsthand.
Don’t get that envious or jealous feeling grow within you. They have withstood the process to be where they are. You can start your own path to a destination where you have set your goals to or you could very well be on your way now so you and only you should measure your success. Never measure your success to success of others.
Comparing yourself to others is unhealthy and it only lets you become miserable. Compare yourself only to yourself. Your only goal should be how to better yourself. How to be a better version of you every day. Achieving something every day already makes you a better version of yourself compared to yesterday.
You have a different race than theirs. Your race is your own.
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